How to build confidence

Confidence, some people are born with it & some are not.  I fell into the latter category.

Looking back on my life, my confidence grew slowly over time.  One key step came from acknowledging the obstacles & challenges I over came – in my hurry to make progress in my life when I was younger meant I never stopped to take stock and see my progress.  I worked on IT projects, the moment one project ends another project started.  So my focus switched to the new project.  It took my some time to realise that I never stopped to recognise my achievements.

So one simple tip, before starting something that daunts you, remind yourself you have felt this way before.  Then like going to a movie, replay in your mind your successes – this helps fuel your inner confidence.

One word of caution, for any readers who are thinking, I don’t have any successes – you do.  Trust me, I have been there.  In the past, I assumed that a success had to be something huge – like wining an Olympic medal.  Now that I am kinder to myself, success is getting of the sofa and going to the gym.  So remember to think of your successes like your best friend would – they may be kinder to you than you are to yourself.