Why faking confidence never works

Ever tried faking confidence but don’t feel like it worked for you?
Welcome to the club.  When I was younger, I tried faking confidence – acting more confident, than I felt.  Then I tried dressing the part.  I kept trying until the penny dropped these things weren’t helping me.
Confidence is a belief in your own ability to handle situations, make decisions, and cope with challenges.  Faking self-belief means you still lack self-belief.
Believing in yourself, means you trust yourself to handle life – that radiates from people.  Take a moment to think about a confident person, they radiate confidence – its not how they dress nor is it how they act.  For me, when I faked confidence, all I felt was a fake.
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