Confidence ebbs & flows

I have discussed previously that I believe confidence is a belief that means you trust yourself and your ability to make choices and decisions.

Confidence naturally flows more easily when you feel life is going well & confidence starts to ebb away when we face major challenges or life changes.

This is natural, it reflects your honest assessments about what is happening in your life.

The trick is when you feel your confidence is ebbing not to judge yourself as “unconfident” or “lacking in confidence”. In challenging times, especially at work, I always rated my co-workers confidence to be high – which made me feel worse. Its also, worth saying that you don’t know how confident some feels or how much they believe in themselves.

What I have found helped me was to remind myself of my own successes.

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